How to Cultivate Self-Compassion
Over the last decade or so, research has consistently shown a positive correlation between self-compassion and psychological well-being. People who have self-compassion also have greater social connectedness, emotional intelligence, happiness, and overall life satisfaction. Self-compassion has also been shown to correlate with less stress, anxiety, and depression. Let’s take a look!
Be Kind to Yourself
Self-compassion is about being kind to ourselves and realizing that the human condition is imperfect and that our mistakes do not define us.
When we see a child struggling and making mistakes, we understand that he or she is in the process of learning something new. Why do we judge the exact same behaviour in adults then? Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Be kind to yourself and never lose faith in your own potential.
The COVID-19 situation is something we have never experienced before, so we are all in the process of learning to deal with it. Give yourself some mental slack. You are doing the best you can in these unique circumstances.
Remember That You Are Not Alone
What each of us is going through is also being experienced by millions of others. If we can recognize our shared humanity – that not one of us is perfect – we can begin to feel more connected to others, with a sense that we’re all in this together.
Set Realistic Expectations
There is a lot of pressure from society to utilize every waking moment to keep improving ourselves in different areas of life now that we all save this extra time by not commuting and have nowhere to be after work.
Since the quarantine started, you can see people posting elaborate daily workouts, fine-dining worthy meals they’ve made, new skills they’ve learned, etc. If they have the mental capacity for all these beautiful things – good for them.
However, self-compassion is about self-acceptance. Accept your own limitations because everyone has them, and focus on key things that are important to you personally. Don’t expect to come out of the quarantine speaking a new language. You might, but again, you might not and it’s ok.